05 July 2016

Exceptional cancellation of meeting for reverence #unitarians

On 10 July the central streets of Ringwood will be closed owing to the Pedal Car Grand Prix.  As a result it will be very difficult to access the Meeting House and hard to maintain a quiet, reflective atmosphere within.  Exceptionally, therefore, we have decided to cancel our July meeting for reverence.


The meeting leader scheduled for July will now lead the meeting in August.



How do we befriend death: reflecting on assisted dying #unitarians

This was the Didymus Day lecture for 2016, on Saturday 2 July, and the address was given by Revd Canon Dr James Woodward, Principal of Sarum College, Salisbury.  We are grateful to the Montgomery Trust for making this lecture possible. www.montgomerytrust.org.uk

James spoke first about the composition of the parliamentary Commission on Assisted Dying; what was commissioned (the question to be answered), who was on the panel, how the Commission worked, and what it did.  He displayed the report that came out, which was a volume of many pages.  James then set out the argument against assisted dying, followed by the arguments in favour of assisted dying.  After that he was frank about his own views based on his experiences, and why it was that he had felt it necessary to dissent from the findings of the Commission, a matter which unfortunately overshadowed the media announcement of the completion of the Commission.

The arguments fall into these categories, and there are unresolved questions in each of them:

Arguments against assisted dying:
1.    The sanctity of life.
2.    Medical ethics.
3.    Protecting vulnerable groups.
4.    The slippery slope (or paradigm shift).

Arguments in favour of assisted dying:
1.    Personal autonomy.
2.    Compassion.
3.    Medical ethics.

The discussion was frank, varied and respectful.  A difficult topic, and many different views and questions were aired.  The issues and questions James left us with, to take away and think about, were these:

There is a need for us to work together to put our spiritual outlook on life to work in regard to this important matter.  In this we need to find space to talk about death.

  • What is an ideal death?
  • Can any of us ever have a pain-free existence?
  • Are we worried about becoming a burden on others?
  • What are most people afraid of when they die?
  • What does "quality of life" mean?
  • Does medicine strive to keep us alive for too long?
  • What choices do we have?
  • What are our fears of assisted dying?
  • When suffering becomes unbearable do we have a duty to release the sufferer rather than prolong it?
  • Can we befriend death and help others to do so?


We were also pointed to the websites
www.wellbeingindying.org.uk

www.commissiononassisteddying.co.uk



26 June 2016

Oneness in a time of division - a #Unitarian view #MoreinCommon


Human beings have many modes of being and doing.  That simple statement is the first step towards drawing a contrast, towards differentiating.  We find we cannot live without differentiating – seeing this nourishing foodstuff as different from that poisonous one, in the primal animal sense, is crucial to our survival.  There are times when we must contrast, differentiate, divide, reject.

But we also have another mode of being and operating: that of integrating, of drawing everything together in some sense of order and oneness, of displaying some form of comprehensiveness from every viewpoint, of merging and the dissolving of barriers.  So there are times when we dissolve, integrate, unite, encompass.

It is false philosophy that sets out one of these modes of being as superior to the other.  There are times for ebbing and times for flowing, and we, in tune with all life, are in the flow of the dance between the two.  Nonetheless, we do hear from wise teachers in all ages that we are in the habit of spending too much time in the contrast-differentiate-divide mode, giving rise to much tension and animosity, wars and atrocities, between persons and communities.  We are advised to love our enemies, to see that other persons are no more than ourselves in different lives, to integrate all opposites – to notice that when we define one something as beautiful we necessarily and unavoidably are defining another something as ugly (with the inference: “so don’t do it”).

There are always fault lines in a nation but, when they are complex to define, people generally just rub along with them.  It is when clear and explicit divides are forced in front of us, in a way that we cannot ignore, that life becomes raw, awkward and abrasive.  Since the lead up to the Scottish referendum on independence from England, Wales and Northern Ireland the United Kingdom has been continuously in a time of division.  In fact, look at Northern Ireland and I defy anyone to say we have ever lived in a United Kingdom. This latest referendum on the UK remaining in the EU or leaving the EU will not mark the end of the era of division.  Despite sane calls for healing, for seeing what we have in common over and above what divides us, the spirit of the times is for disintegration and disestablishing the old order, for a complete revisiting of identities and where we fit in our little worlds.

It is difficult to live or even to promote the Unitarian message that “there’s a certain mysterious, undefinable sort of one-through-ness to all of life” in these times.  It would be dishonest to pretend I am operating in a uniting mode at present.  I am finding that people I have been in the habit of being with from time to time are no longer attracting me; in fact I have designs for being near them no more.  I find that my daydreams now include desires for some quite disruptive events to be visited upon our country, in a way that I would have found quite offensive some years ago.


I think I am instinctively detecting that the storm hasn’t yet hit.

I think that these years are the years of storing up the potential energy that – on some day that is coming closer now – will inevitably resolve the rising tensions, not in the way hoped for by those sane voices asking for togetherness, but rather by a big kinetic explosion.  And I think my daydreams are signs that I don’t like this time of waiting, of waiting for the kettle to boil.  Let’s get it over and done with; let’s have the volcanic eruption; let’s blow ourselves apart so that we can then have the dust settle and then experience a time of getting familiar with a new order.  Let’s get on with it.  And this way of thinking is not wrong, or bad, nor even sinful where I use the word sinful in
its original meaning of “missing the mark”. In fact, more and more I think it is on the mark and to the point.  This is a dividing and yes a divisive time and such times are necessary before a new pattern can emerge.  I think of Siva the transformer god who dances destruction and re-creation into the world in the same way that you or I would turn a kaleidoscope to make a new pattern (does anyone remember kaleidoscopes these days?). (Try the link https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/6/62/Kaleidoscope.webm/220px--Kaleidoscope.webm.jpg  link to Wikipedia video of kaleidoscope action  )

This divisive way of being is new to me and it feels rather strange.  It won’t stop me being courteous to people even if they disagree with me; it won’t stop me reaching out my hand where help is needed: but it will change where I go and whom I choose to associate with; it will mean I wear a badge to display my viewpoint where before I used to hide and disguise my position.  And I will do those divisive things not despite, not running counter to the wisdom of the world’s teachers and prophets; but because as a Unitarian I can see that we should not idolise oneness and togetherness, any more than we should idolise anything else.  Because in a healthy system there are appropriate times and places for blowing things apart.  Roll on the second Scottish referendum on independence.