18 February 2024

On 18 February 2024 #Unitarians in Ringwood made God laugh

On 18th February 2024 we say "Happy 10th Anniversary!" to Didymus.........

........And what an anniversary it turned out to be.



Early in the week beforehand it seemed that there would not be enough of us available to make a gathering worthwhile, and certainly not a gathering led by a guest preacher who would need to make a three hour return trip by car to be with us.


And so there was no gathering in Ringwood today.


For some of us, that was not a surprise.  For others, it was absolutely a surprise.


And as for those who made alternative plans, involving meeting together elsewhere – well, they found that despite best intentions, that didn’t work out happen either.


And so, what’s the spiritual learning we harvest from today?


It’s best summed up in this old joke:






04 February 2024

#Unitarians in Ringwood think about choosing a new way – January 2024

The gathering in January was billed as sitting in that awkward intersection of religion and politics, which people in secular society seem to get so bothered about, but which is bread and butter to people of faith.

There is always a sensitivity about mixing scripture and politics.  So much so, that at this gathering our president of the day opted to read the second reading herself, saying that she would not expect others to read out loud ideas and thoughts that they might strongly disagree with, or at least, feel very uncomfortable with.


a lit candle in the foreground and a large book, by implication the Bible, in the background
But that’s getting ahead of ourselves.  

For the first-time reader of this blog, a bit of help so you can get the picture: our gatherings normally include elements of ritual, such as lighting candles, listening to recorded music, intervals of introspection and reflection on how we might be better people in future, some formally worded prayers, perhaps some poetry.  Occasionally we hold a period of seven minutes of silence for private contemplation and meditation.  There is usually the opportunity to sing along with recordings by the Unitarian Musical Society, who have kindly recorded many of our denomination’s favourite hymns.  And there are usually two readings reflecting the classical Unitarian heritage — our prime library being the Bible and the focus of our inspiration being the famous Jewish leader and teacher, Jesus of Nazareth.  Nonetheless, quite often we only hear one reading from the Bible (or scripture from another world faith) and then a second reading may be a counterpoint, a commentary, or a contemporary development of the same theme.  It all depends on the choice by the president of the day, who then takes some minutes to explain why the readings have been chosen, and how they might bring additional meaning when set against each other.

the large old table in the largest box pew at the centre of Ringwood Meeting House, known as the Elders' Pew, prepared ready for our gathering


On this occasion the first reading was familiar.  It was the parable Jesus tells about a man beaten and robbed by thugs, the characters who subsequently walk past without helping, and who it is who finally stops to help and care for the victim.  It is a story that is generally known by the title The Good Samaritan, and it can be found in the Bible, in the book of Luke, chapter 10 verses 25-37.  Owing to its familiarity, the story is not now considered controversial, but it would have been shocking on a number of levels, when first told to its Jewish audience.

line sketch of a wounded man lying on the ground being tended by another, with a mule in the background


The second reading came from the blog of the Professor of Accounting Practice at Sheffield University, Richard Murphy.  It was something Professor Murphy posted only a few weeks beforehand.

https://www.taxresearch.org.uk/Blog/2023/12/12/it-feels-like-some-people-are-driving-the-world-towards-insanity-and-no-one-is-sure-how-to-stop-them/

This blogpost is a cry of alarm by an academic, who reckons that people in world leadership positions are “threatening the stability of society as we have known it, quite consciously aware of the consequences, and apparently indifferent to them.”  The pain and frustration felt by Professor Murphy in this post is almost palpable.  He goes on, “I have often felt that we are close to a tipping point. Today, that feels closer than ever, and apart from drawing attention to the issue, I have little other clue what to do about it. It feels like some people are driving the world towards insanity, and no one is sure how to stop them.”

Quote from Gus Speth: “I used to think the top environmental problems were biodiversity loss, ecosystem collapse and climate change.  I thought that with 30 years of good science we could address those problems. But I was wrong.  The top environmental problems are selfishness, greed and apathy… And to deal with those we need a spiritual and cultural transformation – and we scientists don't know how to do that.”


So how did our president knit these two readings together?  It turns out she borrowed quite heavily from a book Freedom is Coming, by Nick Baines, Bishop of Leeds, as she put it together for us.

“Our first reading was the parable of the Good Samaritan.  I last used that reading in April 2021, which is a long time ago.  Too long ago.  We should probably hear that reading every week, in some form or another.  I’m not going to unpack it.  I just leave it there for you to remember, and to think about.  But I do follow it with this statement by Prof Dr Isolde Karle of Ruhr University in Germany:

‘It is completely imaginable that one day the story of the Good Samaritan will no longer be known or understood. Solidarity with the powerless, and deliberate care of the marginalized, of the sick, of people in need, are not self-evident.’”

That was actually a startling thought.  And worse: as soon as we began to think about what it might mean — that it is possible that one day humans might not care about helping each other — we actually started fulfilling the thought, because we were making it imaginable.

While we explored the ramifications of that rather terrifying thought, our president went on: 

“I have to admit that it’s not my mind that I first think of changing, to make this earth more like the kingdom of God.  It’s the world I want to change.......... And yet, in the narrative of Mark about Jesus, the first words out of Jesus’ mouth tell us that he brings a philosophy of interior change: “Repent,” — change your mind — “for the kingdom of God has come near.” (Mark 1:15).  Jesus begins his public ministry with this call: look differently at God, the world and yourselves, and refuse to be defined — or constrained — by your current circumstances or experience.”

Even though tradition has it that the gospel of Mark was written in Rome, Mark was writing for first century Jews.  To a first century Jew, essentially ‘good news’ would mean the Romans leaving and the Jews getting their land, worship and identity back.  So Jesus is daring first century Jewish people to consider the radical possibility that God can be here even while the Romans remain in charge of their immediate life and destiny. 

Not being a first century Jew I was wondering where our president was going with this. She went on to suggest that the certainty that the power that creates order out of chaos whispers in us is that oppression, violence, despair, destruction, exile, and death do not and will not have the final word in this world.  She said that God’s people, those who are drawn on by this hope, will always be outsiders and always look ridiculous to those who do not hear the whisper.

She argued that the way to avoid the loss of recognition and understanding of the tale of the Good Samaritan is to repeat the story and to keep talking about what it means.  This story should be paid attention to, along with other stories that also have deep resonances.  And to make that story real in our lives, we should keep paying attention to people and other sentient beings that are left by the wayside, even when other people pass by on the other side.

“Therefore, perhaps when we feel like changing the state of the world, when we feel like rising up to do something about it all, perhaps as Jesus says, it’s actually — after all — all about changing our minds — to repent — to live as if now is the time to do new things and live newly in the world — time to love God with all our heart, with all our soul, with all our strength, with all our mind; and time to love our neighbour as ourself.  To live as if the kingdom of God has come near right now.”

Signpost with two signs, one pointing left, one pointing right.  Pointing left labelled: SAME OLD MISTAKES.  Pointing right labelled: GLORIOUS NEW MISTAKES.

Paperback book cover: "Seeking Paradise – a Unitarian mission for our times" by Stephen Lingwood




27 December 2023

Advent and Christmas readings and music – #Unitarians gather again in Ringwood December 2023

As previously announced, the band of faithfuls making up the fellowship of Didymus in Ringwood gathered together for a combined Advent and Christmas service, on 10th December.


The darkness of the tradition of Advent is supposed to be a suitable preparation for the bright light and joy of Christmas, and our gathering attempted to include elements of both.


There was surprising range of recorded music.  There was Paul McCartney singing a song inspired by the Hare Krishna faith of George Harrison, “One of these Days”.  Bing Crosby sang a song by a Unitarian Universalist, Noël Regny, “Do you hear what I hear?”.  A Wiltshire church congregation allowed us to sing along with them the 1849 Unitarian hymn by Edmund Sears, “It Came Upon a Midnight Clear”.  The Unitarian Musical Society helped us out with a hymn from the purple UK Unitarian hymnbook, “Come, Sing a Song with Me”.  Lastly, Voces8 floated us away by singing a setting by Christopher Tin of a poem “Hope is the thing with feathers” by Emily Dickinson, who had a Unitarian upbringing.


We had a reading from Isaiah chapter 40 (vv 3-5, 21-24, & 28-31) with its traditional cry for Advent: 


A voice cries out:
‘In the wilderness prepare the way of the Lord,
    make straight in the desert a highway for our God.

Every valley shall be lifted up,
    and every mountain and hill be made low;
the uneven ground shall become level,
    and the rough places a plain.’


Our second reading was "The Journey of the Magi" by T. S. Eliot.  


Our third reading was a personal view by Rev Arek Maleck, as published in "The Inquirer" (issue 8073 Dec 2023), regarding how Unitarians are able to celebrate Christmas even without the traditional views about Jesus.  Its main message was: “The motivations for embracing traditional lyrics, speaking of miracles, virgin birth, and God incarnate, vary.  Some may do it simply for the pleasure of familiarity.  But I'd like to think that many of us turn to them out of a realisation of the immense value of metaphor and paradox.  This appreciation allows us to immerse ourselves in the Christmas story fully — including submerging our heads in it.....Carl Gustav Jung taught that, oddly enough, the paradox is one of our most valuable spiritual possessions, while uniformity of meaning is a sign of weakness.  Hence a religion becomes inwardly impoverished when it loses or waters down its paradoxes; whereas their multiplication enriches, because only the paradox comes anywhere near to comprehending the the fullness of life.”





The personal contribution of the president for the day was as follows.



“Not everyone finds this season a season of cheer and goodwill.  If you are finding it difficult preparing for Christmas this year, you are not the only one. This can be for all kinds of reasons.

May we know that we fill a particular hole in the fabric of the universe, and that we are known, better than we know ourselves.



A way of thinking about Christmas is as a time of hope.


If one is not a traditional Christian, or feeling no connection to Jesus at all, then hope for what?


Hope for change — things can’t go on as they are

Hope for company — for the security and warmth that being with others can bring

Hope for peace — for rest from troubles

Hope for clarity and order — that there is some sense to be made of this life


In short, hope for renewal.


The reason the story has stuck so well is that most people love the idea of a new baby.

Many can’t help smiling about such news — seeing a new baby as a sign of the possibility of a fresh start.  This chimes neatly with hope for renewal.



This season is not necessarily the season of gold and red and green.  There are many reasons why our mood might be coloured midnight blue. Yet the candles of Christmas remind us that goodness overcomes darkness, and that hope is stronger than despair. 


It is said that it is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.  But just as no one curses our darkness for us, no one can light a light for us. This is something we need to do for ourselves.  As Nick Bains says, self-pity can become an idol, making it all too easy to not hear the whispered language of newness, freedom and vocation.



This season of the potential for abundance is the time to be gentle with ourselves and each other.


If we allow it to, and by the breaking in of grace, what happens at Christmas allows us to believe that opposites can be reconciled.  That change will come.  That there is a peace that can be found, that there are people who will love us, that there can be a new beginning.


All this comes announced and reflected in the painful, messy, disregarded birth of a human babe, born in discomfort, but full of innocence and potential.  In the darkness, but surrounded by light.”